Get in touch

To schedule an appointment or a phone consultation, you can email me at erinmillstherapy@gmail.com or call (718) 568-5761

Experience

Psychotherapist
Sandoval Psychotherapy Associates
2022-2024

Psychotherapist
Karen Horney Clinic
2019-2022

Intern Psychotherapist
Bleuler Psychotherapy Center
2018-2019

Psychotherapist
Karen Horney Clinic
2019-2022

Intern Psychotherapist
Bleuler Psychotherapy Center
2018-2019

Education & Training

Psychotherapy for Psychosis, Psychoanalytic Association of NY (PANY)
Spring 2021

Intro to Psychoanalysis & Psychotherapy Seminar Series, Psychoanalytic Association of NY (PANY)
Fall 2020

MSW & Masters in International Affairs (SIPA) – Columbia University
2019

Professional Affiliations & Memberships

Member, The International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis & Psychotherapy (IARPP)

Member, American Association for Psychoanalysis in Clinical Social Work (AAPCSW)

Member, International Society for Psychological and Social Approaches to Psychosis (ISPS-USA)

About Me

I’m a humanistic and relational psychoanalytic therapist. These are some of my basic beliefs about treatment:

• Each person is unique and each therapy is something we create together, through a process of elaborating a trusting relationship where you can take interpersonal risks that may initially feel like too much outside the therapy room, explore your inner life & past experiences, identify and address patterns that are feeding what you are dealing with today, and find new ways to manage your life.
• Your feelings – of joy, loneliness, sadness, fear, emptiness, anger – and symptoms have meaning and context. The more we can understand about them and you, the less stuck you will feel and the more you will be able to experience connection and vitality.
• We are all born with the capacity to grow, change and adapt to our circumstances, and we all have vulnerabilities and sources of strength and resilience. Growth and change are a lifelong process. You are not a diagnosis. DSM categories and diagnoses are descriptions of symptoms and patterns, but they do not explain why you feel the way you do or how to move forward.
• Symptoms are often creative adaptations to our circumstances that allow us to maintain connections to other people, manage our feelings, and to be accepted by society, our peers, and our family. When we go through especially painful or difficult life experiences, sometimes we need extreme measures to manage pain and protect ourselves. This can take diverse forms – some people obsess about the worst-case scenario and cannot sleep or stop thinking about it. Some people numb themselves with work, alcohol, food, or sex; some people need to hurt themselves by engaging in self-harm to manage intolerable pain, anger or shame. Some people find it difficult to be close to others or are afraid of being alone. You may know that this is hurting you, but aren’t sure how to stop or what else will work. Part of what helps in therapy is that you can get the support of someone else to imagine other possibilities for yourself.

We can work together to explore your inner life, understand past experiences and underlying beliefs, experiment with new ways of coping with your feelings and being in relationships, and let go of limiting beliefs about yourself.

I am a sex positive therapist & welcome people from the kink, BDSM, poly, and ethical non-monogamy communities – I will not pathologize the way you love.